As graduation draws near I’m starting to think about my future as a counselor. Will I find a job? Will I have a specific population I work with? Who will counsel me when I eventually go crazy? (some may argue I’ve already gone)
The reason I wanted to become a counselor is I love helping people. It’s my passion. The intense feeling I’ve had working during my counseling internship can’t be compared. I also love the idea of relationships. I consider myself a student of the way people relate. It’s interesting how we relate to others, how we relate to ourselves, and with God. I’ve heard it said that life’s greatest joys and deepest wounds are relational in nature. I said that I love the idea of relationships; that’s because it’s often in the execution of a relationship when things start to get rocky.
Two people working to become one, it ain’t easy. It’s one of the hardest things in life because it requires constant work. It’s not something you can just create and never work on it again. When two individuals decide they want to be together they bring with them two different ways of doing life, two different strengths, two different sets of weaknesses, two different pasts. So of course there will be a lot of difficulty.
I’m no expert in relationships by any means. (ask my girlfriend) I fail a lot. But one thing I have learned and try to do is to constantly ask myself is how can I serve her better. I think we as humans have a tendency to easily point out the faults of others. In relationships, it’s easy to criticize your partner. It’s harder to look at yourself and ask how you can serve them better. But if BOTH people in the relationship are asking the question to themselves instead of pointing fingers at each other things would run a lot smoother. Of course you will have disagreements. Those are meant to happen. It’s when we start being critical of each other when everything starts to crumble.
We are made for relationships and I hope you are blessed in each of yours.
